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Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Comment by Mary M. on July 3, 2012 at 7:13am

Ann I am so sorry I was not suggesting your Mom had not been tested and the cancer found early.  I know this friend and many others have survived and are doing well, and I hoped to encourage others to be tested.  I'm not advocating suicide either though,  I, myself, have no intention of going through the pain I watched my husband go through so my personal decision is not to be tested.  A decision my kids don't understand, but as I told them non knowing whether I have cancer or not means I can live each and every day like its my last without being pressured to take a treatment that I know is painful, debilitating and takes away all dignity.  Please forgive me if I caused you more pain by my comment.  My heart goes out to everybody on here who has lost a loved one after watching the devastating effects of the treatment and the course of this insidious disease.  Hugs to you!

Comment by Kim Phillips on July 3, 2012 at 6:47am

Ann I understand what you are saying.  I understand the agony and pain.  I understand what an insidious monster cancer is.  All the money put into cancer and we still have nothing better than radiation and chemo. 

Comment by Ann on July 2, 2012 at 9:59pm

My mom was tested for colon cancer every five years, it was caught early but it was an aggressive type of cancer and they could do nothing except offer false hope.  I wish she had lived out her life without the surgery, without the bag they put on her that made her cry every day, without the chemo that made her lose her hair and left her too frail to enjoy what time she had left.

Comment by Mary M. on July 2, 2012 at 9:20pm

Four friends decided they would all get tested for colon cancer despite their doctors telling them it was not necessary.  1 of the 4 discovered she had cancer and because it was caught early was able to get chemo treatment and it is believed this has worked to wipe out the cancer.  We know there is no cure, and this is really remission, it can reoccur, but it is better than if she had not been tested, not diagnosed and was no longer with us.   Maybe this is a wake up call to those of us who put off being tested or don't insist on being tested just in case.

Comment by Ann on July 2, 2012 at 1:36am

Cancer.  If I am ever diagnosed with cancer like my mom was I will walk myself out to the garage, get in my car, turn on the engine, then sit there til I join her in heaven. My mom had all the tests, she didn't smoke, she ate right, she exercised, she died of aggressive colon cancer.  The doctors did nothing but torture her.  How many races have been run, how many telethons, how many pink, yellow, blue, green...ribbons have we worn?  

Comment by Mary M. on June 30, 2012 at 3:02pm

Dennis, I agree its so unfair that you and your wife are not only battling this disease but also the financial burden of treatment.  My thoughts and prayers are with you.

Comment by Ann on June 30, 2012 at 1:33pm

If you lived in any other developed country you would not have lost your home due to medical costs.  I feel so sad that you and your wife had to fight not only the cancer but the bills associated with not having universal health care.  My thoughts are with you.

Comment by Dennis C. on June 29, 2012 at 11:43am
This week we just found out that my wife's ovarian cancer has returned again. 4th time. This time on the liver. Saw the oncologist yesterday, and the surgeon next Tuesday. Talking to financial aid and a lawyer for disability this time around. We lost our house last time. Just can't keep up. The system overwhelms you, and then leaves you out to dry.

What comforts me is the knowledge of why we get sick, and why we die. The answers are clearly found in God's word. Knowing that God is NOT the problem, but that he offers the solution helps me considerably.

It doesn't take the pain away, but brings some stability to my life.

Isaiah 33:24 And no resident will say: “I am sick.”...

That is a promise from God that I hold dear. I look forward to seeing it become a reality.

DC
Comment by Kim Phillips on June 28, 2012 at 8:24pm

I understand about the money going into cancer research.   I lost my grandmother, my best friend and aunt all in one year to cancer and the treatment was the same as when I lost my grandfather to cancer 30 years ago (surgery, radiation and chemo).  I believe the cure is in the prevention.  I believe that there is an increase in cancer due to the foods we consume (all the chemicals and preservatives) and life styles we live.  So with that said again I believe the cure is in the prevention.

Comment by anna l. on June 28, 2012 at 8:17pm

Too many people with cancer.  My great niece is beginning a huge struggle at only 34 her breast cancer is already stage 4 in her ribs and spine. She is having a brain scan today I believe.  So sad, just so sad.  After what happened with my husband it is really hard for me to believe in miracles.

 

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