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Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Lost Dad to Lung Cancer

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I feel worse 2 and a half years on, than I ever did. 11 Replies

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Give yourself time to heal

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Comment by Jayne on August 20, 2012 at 9:03pm

So sorry Ann for your loss. It has been so painful. I feel I need to talk to someone who I can have this connection with. My mom had Pancreatic Cancer. There is no early detection for this horrific Disease!

Comment by Ann on August 20, 2012 at 8:28pm

There are no words Jayne, no suggestion, that will take away the hole in your heart.  My mom died of colon cancer that was in the small intestine and not found by her colon screening tests.  I still can't believe that there hasn't been more progress made in cancer treatment.  We are living in the dark ages.

Comment by Jayne on August 20, 2012 at 8:05pm
I have lost my mom, my best friend to Pancreatic Cancer. It is the worst feeling in the world!
Comment by michael sandoval on August 20, 2012 at 6:07pm

To all new members,

My condolences to all of you.  It has been three years in sept that i lost my Denise to colon cancer.  It never gets easier, but you do learn to live with the pain and separation.

Comment by Ann on August 20, 2012 at 5:33pm

I totally understand the Hollywood director who ended his life because he had inoperable brain cancer.  Are there any doctors on this site?  How do you deal with having to tell someone they have cancer knowing that the medical options you have are so few and ineffective?

Comment by Debbie S on August 10, 2012 at 10:48pm

Julie, It's been 5 months for me and I'm still in that boat. I was numb for the first month or so and as much as I hated that feeling I think it was easier than the pain I feel now. I have his urn on the nightstand beside our bed with a picture. I still sleep with his shirt.... that is when I'm able to fall asleep. I miss him more asnd more everyday. I never thought I'd find a love like we had now he's gone. My thoughts are with you julie

Comment by Julie E. Francisconi on August 10, 2012 at 8:28pm

Mary, I feel just like you do.  My husband died only 3 weeks ago.  I feel as though my heart has been ripped out of my chest.  I can't eat and still feel such a pit in my stomach.  I was in the hospital with my husband when he died but still feel guilt. . .did he get the best treatment possible, why did it not work?. .  . why did he have to die and leave me to deal with this pain??   I look at his urn and can't believe someone who was so alive is now in a vase? I smell his ballcaps and clothes.  I look at his pictures and it kills me I will never get to touch him or talk to him ever again.  I need something to sleep and dread the morning light when I have to face a new day without him.  Funny, he always liked the fact that I would jump out of bed early to start the day. . .no more. 

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Comment by Kim Phillips on August 10, 2012 at 8:26am

Debbie, I truly understand your pain and I wish I could tell you something that would help ease it.  It has been a lil over 3 months for me and it hasn't gotten any easier.  As a matter of fact I feel the same as you -- pain getting worse, lonely, very empty and lost.  My family and friends try to help me but what I have realized is that this is my journey and I need to feel and be in my grief right now as much as it hurts. There are times when I have to get away from the grief and I do.  It isn't easy.  I keep a journal and write to her every day.  I don't know whether this is helping me or not.  I scream out WHY too.  I beg G-D to turn the hands of time back.  I get angry with G-D.  I don't even know if I believe in G-D any more.  Not only has my life been turned upside down but so has my faith.  I beg her to come to me in spirit/in dreams.  To give me some sort of clue that she is OK but there is NOTHING!   People tell me I need to move on, that is what she would want.  That is very kind of them but until they have "walked a mile in my shoes" well.......   Any way, sending you a BIG HUG!!

 

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