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Losing Someone to Cancer

This is for anyone who has lost somone to cancer. I lost my adopted Mom to breast cancer some years ago. She was everything I could have asked for. She loved me because I was just me. She also loved my family and children as if they were her own.

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Comment by Kim Phillips on September 10, 2012 at 10:59am

I understand how we feel abandoned by G-D.  I don't believe G-D took our loved ones.  What I believe is the the evil insidioius cancer took our loved ones.  Now, I believe G-D could have healed our loved ones.  That is were I become angry as hell!  I also believed that in the New Testament Jesus said over and over Ask and you shall receive.  Well we asked and asked and had great faith but NOTHING!  Now that I am suffering with my loss, I turn to G-D and I feel abandoned.  I question over and over if there is a G-D.  Have we all been taught throughout our lives in someone that doesn't exist.  Was G-D made up in order to have laws and morals in our lives?  Is G-D a security blanket.  I will tell you this, I know this young man who was never brought up or had a personal relationship with G-D and he is the most kind hearted, sensative, absolutely amazing young man I have ever met.  He has more or a heart and soul than a lot of the religious church going people I have met in my life.  So I don't believe we need to have G-D to be a good person.  Any way I will get off my soap box.  I am teetering the line on my faith.  Love and peace to all.

Comment by michael sandoval on September 10, 2012 at 9:38am

WE become upset because God doesn't act the way we want Him to. We want to be God and have God do what we want.  But God is God and we are HIS children.  We belong to Him and when He wants us, That is His choice.  I miss my Denise and her faith in God protected her and guided her and gave her the strength to fight this horrible disease.   She was much stronger than I because of her firm faith in the Lord.  I love and miss you Baby

Comment by Ann on September 9, 2012 at 2:38pm

Mark, I agree that God has some explaining to do.  I don't know if there even is a God any more.  But I know there is something because my mom was more than her body.  Whatever that more is, I promised her I would search for it and we would be together again even if we are only two kindred molecules floating through time and space.

Comment by Ann on September 9, 2012 at 10:03am

I launched a star for my mom on the Stand Up To Cancer site.  I guess I still have a small amount of hope that cancer treatment will improve.  Now, we are in the dark ages of treatment and I am sure we have all watched our loved ones suffer.  I can't believe my mom is gone.  Almost two years and I am still waiting for her to come home.

Comment by Mark on September 7, 2012 at 10:23pm

Dennis, I can respect that approach but for me personally I feel completely abandoned by a God that some humans say he will only allow what we can handle.  What I saw.  What I watched my mom endure for the entirety of my life was far beyond what any human should ever have to deal with.  The cancer was the final gruesome  coup d'éta  That final year was so beyond a nightmare I wouldn't wish it on any one.  I remain puzzled, hurt, angry that there is possibly a God that would sit back and allow all of it.  I'm left feeling like God would have to ask me for forgiveness for doing nothing.  Was it Satan?  Maybe but then that's quite easy to create the onus and place it on something else when we are told early on God creates every thing.  I'm holding God responsible for this.  He let me down.  Crushed me.  Allowed way too much.   This is the other lovely gift I get to live with for the rest of my life wondering why he allowed this.  But for those who need to put the blame on an evil entity with horns and hope a God will cuddle them like a puppy when they are embracing the most horrid moments of life I can respect it but for me it's much more than that.  I can't let God off the hook.  There is no way I believe God could endure the life's journey we took.  God some say is a jealous God and a vengeful God.  I think about 6 months into a similar situation as ours he would have pretty much cracked some skulls so to speak and said enough is enough.  Just my opinion but your words do make me think and search my own soul and I'm appreciative of that.  Sometimes when God is mentioned I just need to let out these feelings.  Hope you will understand :)

Comment by Nicole Burk on September 7, 2012 at 8:01pm
I dont know what to feel anymore or were i am emotionally in my sitation with my sister....she was given 1-3 months to live after a long time of fighting....she is only 35 and has two small kids and a husband....she is decling fast and i am a nurse and i recognize the "signs"...ihave been physically taking care of her....her kids....cleaning...shopping and i feel overwelmed...this sucks bad...
Comment by Dennis C. on September 7, 2012 at 6:35am
Job 2:7 So Satan went out away from the person of the LORD and struck Job with a malignant boil from the sole of his foot to the crown of his head.

I find it extremely interesting that Satan used cancer against this faithful man Job. In a strange way this makes me stronger. It enables me to muster up more determination to fight because I refuse to let Satan get the better if me, live or die.

My wife is now battling her 4th occurrence of ovarian cancer. It is brutal. On her, her daughters, and me. The effects of the treatments rob a person of every dignity and take any normalcy from our lives. No sleep, no rest, no peace because of the extreme nature of her struggles.

But knowing that Satan can use this terrible decease to attack our faith just angers me in a good way. It invigorates my relationship with my God, and reminds me that God is NOT part of the problem, he is the ONLY solution.
Comment by lynda whitton on September 6, 2012 at 8:48am

Hi Brenda, thank you for your kind words. Cancer is so cruel, it has taken 2 people im very close to in the last 3yrs & is now taking hold of 2more, just wish they would find a cure soon, so no-one else has to go through the horrid pain & suffering

Comment by Angel on September 6, 2012 at 7:34am

I also agree that cancer is evil...it destroys lives...many...Brenda..I am sorry for your loss...Roger sounds like a kind giving wonderful person...God rest his soul...PEACE

Comment by Brenda Ann on September 6, 2012 at 6:41am

Lynda,

Thank you for your kind words. I have lost so many friends to cancer, as Kim says, it is evil! Your Aunt & Uncle have been stocked by it and countless families brokenhearted over it. As the Bible says at 1 Corinthians 15:25, 26 death is an enemy, “For he must rule as king until [God] has put all enemies under his feet. As the last enemy, death is to be brought to nothing.”  The good thing is that Jesus as King of God’s Kingdom or Government will put an end to death itself. What a glorious day that will be.

Brenda - mawmaw1591@gmail.com



 

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