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Comment by michael sandoval on April 13, 2012 at 11:05am

Dear Kaitlyn and Sherry,

My deepest Condolences to both of you.

love,

Mike

Comment by Kaitlyn Lyttle on April 13, 2012 at 7:58am

My father died march 8th of lung cancer. I miss him everyday:'( i wish he was still here. He got to see me turn 17 though , my birthday was march 6th:'( . He's in heaven now but he has 3 children and a wife who miss him very much( my mom, me , my brother and sister who are both about to turn 13) . I miss dad:'( He was the best dad every<3 Sometimes i need him more than every but i know hes watchingover me i just miss him so much:'(

Comment by Cynthia Horacek on April 4, 2012 at 6:47pm

Dear All -

Reading some of the posts here make me want to hug you all and make it better!  There is a blog I found, and read something that many of us know and have been saying all along: there is no timeline for grief.  No one can say how long it takes to "get over it"; we don't get over it; we get through it.  We might think we are losing our minds, but it is normal to forget things, to lose days and want to stay in bed and just weep until we can weep no more.  Some of us are afraid to start crying because we think we'll never stop - but no one has ever cried forever!  The tears do stop.  We may be exhausted when we stop; we will cry again.  Tears are a release - it's a healthy way to let some of it go, as nuts as that may sound.  We don't want others to see us cry, but it is part of our process.  It is completely normal to be forgetful, to want to stay in bed, to have mood swings and days where we wonder why we are still here when the person we loved so much is gone.  If I didn't have my two wonderful daughters, I might have tried to find a way to end my own suffering - it will be 18 months on May 12 that I lost my wonderful husband.  My girls lost one parent; I don't want them to lose two, even though they are grown up and married now.  They still need mom - and Ron - if you're reading this -  your kids still need their dad.  The problem with life is that people die.  And for those of us who are left, it sucks.  It doesn't matter how old someone is or how long you've been with them, or if it's a parent or a spouse or a sibling; it just sucks.  My dad died in January.  My parents were married 68 years.  He was 96 - he was ready; he had a long and fulfilling life.  But it doesn't make it any easier for those of us who loved him, and it isn't any easier for my mom, losing him than it was for me to lose my Don, even though Don was much younger - only 57 when he died.  

It's hard to watch our loved ones make the transition to another plane of existence; I do believe the soul goes on, and I don't believe they are stuck or suffering as long as we are in pain. I do believe they would like for us to not suffer, but I know my Don is with his family - his parents, and others who've passed before him.  I hope and believe we will be together again.  I didn't believe this before - neither of us were religious.  But he saw something in the hours before he died that only he could see, and he kept reaching out towards it.  It made me believe.  I miss him every minute of every day.  And sometimes unfortunately, life does go on.  I still wonder why I'm still here; I haven't found my purpose without him in my life, and I am still looking.  I may spend the rest of my life here looking.  Who knows what tomorrow will bring?  

Comment by michael sandoval on April 4, 2012 at 5:03pm

Dear Tim,

My deepest Condolences.

To Everyone,

there is a web page called Tributes.com where we can create a tribute to our loved ones.  I created an online tribute to my Denise.

Comment by Sue Waxman on April 4, 2012 at 9:20am

Ron,

We all have issues we are dealing with. Your grief and your saddness and your loss are issues aren't they? I am dealing with issues after mother passed. She was all I had. My mother worried so much about me. She was unable to be happy where she now is until I could show her I will be OK. It doesns't mean I am not grieving and sad and lonely. I am still dealing with it everyday. When I was able to assure her that I can survive here and tell her Mom go ahead on your journey and I will one day catch up with you....she was free of worrying about me. I felt her relief and I felt her transition into that peaceful place. I still cry for her and I miss her so much. Sue

Comment by joni on April 2, 2012 at 7:34pm

hey tim...so sorry for the loss of your mom...i can relate as my husband also died of lung cancer , tho he hadnt smoked for some 35 yrs-and was healthy as horse , went to the doctor regular every 3mos and even had a special cancer screening done once a year-he was diagnosed a week after his birthday on oct 18-and died dec 26-and watched him deteriorate quickly-stopped eating or fluids- and had the death rattle 12hrs prior to his death-the speed of how fast it all happened makes my head spin, still hard to believe sometimes-im sure hes in a much better place but miss him terribly-last two days was a total wreck , rollercoaster of emotions crying anger quilt-over and over-i keep saying tomorrow will be better-so am trying to believe that-get all the support you can-i attend grief group at hospice, its good-prayers to you all for some comfort and peaceful night-hugs joni

Comment by Tim L. on April 2, 2012 at 6:27pm

My Mom passed away 12/29/11 2 days before her birthday, she had lung cancer and never told my family, we noticed her sleeping a lot and not eating or drinking anything.  I finally called an ambulance and rushed her to the emergency room.  She told the doctors she was in pain, but never mentioned the cancer.  Mom had a cat scan and found she had 13 malignant tumors, some as big as a softball. She was terminal and didn't have long to live.  We took her home and called Hospice for pain management and every day i watched her get worse, she lasted 2 weeks, the end of her life was very hard, her eyes didnt close or blink, her mouth was wide open and the death rattle was so loud like she had water in her lungs, her heart rate was in the two hundreds, her death was terrible, i cant get the picture out of my head, besides missing her, her dying in my presents makes things even harder.  I know we are told that they are no longer in pain and in a better place, but that doesn't really comfort me.  I hug her ashes every night and morning, i wear a locket around my neck that contains ashes, I will not put a shirt on if it isn't black.  The crying has stopped, but the sorrow remains, all I want to do is stay in bed, sleep a lot and have no drive to get through my daily activities.  I don't know what to do.  How long will this last?  I just need to make heads or tails of this.

Comment by Ron on April 2, 2012 at 4:08pm

Sue. I don"t understand why you say i have to many issues  The only issue i have is this broken heart. I am not angry with anyone, i don"t get upset about how the whole world is doing in these hard times, the price of gas does not even bother me. The only worry i have is where am i going to spend eternity. I want to go where the people that i love and the people that loved me are. My hope is that my sins are forgiven. I know that our Lord Jesus Christ died on the cross for all of our sins. I am trying to be the kind of a person my wife would want me to be. That does not stop me from wanting to go to her now.

One thing you said that made me stop and think is when you said " Don"t you think it would make my Jean sad if she sees that i am sad?" I do thank you for that insight..............Ron

Comment by Barbara Sutton on April 2, 2012 at 2:31pm

Hi all, In our sharing space, I just need to say today is the 1 year mark of the loss of my husband. I am so numb, want to cry, my stomach hurts, and I am lost. I'm choked up, fighting the tears, and don't want them to start. I'm on my lunch break and just felt the need to come home and see what is here on our page. My Jimmy was only 52, and I am still waiting for him to come home, I'm still on occasion in denial, even though his ashes are here with me. Thank you all for sharing so that I don't feel so abnormal...I am glad this forum is here for us all. Love and special blessings to us all.

 

Comment by Sue Waxman on April 2, 2012 at 1:30pm

Ron,

I think I am way ahead of you in where I am...I don't mean to sound calus and I think my below e mail does. I KNOW that we go to another world after this that is enchanting and only beautiful filled with love. In order for you wife to be able to be happy where she is NOW you must convey to her that you can be OK right now. She needs to be free until you meet up with her.

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