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Permalink Reply by dream moon JO B on December 11, 2015 at 4:11pm

it mit sond silly bt i let ballons off for my dad i do evn othr lovedd 1st iv losss i do

its lk givin thm a gitf it is 

iv beanin byin a lot of ballons sine 2012 a lot i do 

sum tims i wite a lert o thm or merry xmas sum tims i do

sorry abit typun vad spelin or typin erros 

2 day im in dnt giv a shit mod i am mums illnes dos ths 2 me laty it doz so im sorry if im not bean anise person u cud say

sum tims i let thm off my dad ballons thy burts in a big bang thy do its lk im geta a mese frm my dad or hi so on 

sorry fr yroe yore loss 

im so mest up

Permalink Reply by valerie cox on December 11, 2015 at 5:28pm

My mom was the 10th of october, i feel your pain. All i want is for my mom to come home. I wish i had tips, i just feel its getting harder. I could use some tips as well. I am so sorry for your loss Kelly.

Permalink Reply by Megan on December 12, 2015 at 1:25pm

Kelly, I am not sure, as I am having a hard time with the holidays as well. I am finding if I stay busy I do better. Other than that I don't really know. 

Jo B, It actually sounds like a lovely idea. My aunts, uncles, and cousins let off floating lanterns for my Mom on the 4th of July and I thought it would be a nice idea for Christmas. I feel like I need to mark it somehow. 

Permalink Reply by Megan on December 14, 2015 at 5:38am

Hi Kelly,

I saw this on Facebook and I thought of you. I suppose some of them seem like common sense. For me, since I have been on winter break my normal routine has gone out the window. This has really affected my mood. I don't know if it is because I suddenly have the time to dwell on missing Mom or if it is thinking about the holidays without her - I have just been a mess. I know that I should be incorporating these tips into my life on a regular basis and keeping a routine, but sometimes I need a reminder. 

Sending you hugs x

Christmas can be a stressful time for some. Here are some tips for lifting your mood when you are feeling low:

Chat to someone. Make an effort to talk to someone positive in your life – being sociable and having a positive conversation will help improve your mood.

Exercise. Nobody ever regrets exercise. Ever! It is one of the greatest mood enhancers.

Sleep, rest. Make an effort to put everything else aside and have an early night if you need it, you could try just lying down and relaxing if you cannot sleep.

Plan something enjoyable. If you feel like you’re stuck in a rut and work is dominating your life, plan an event that you can look forward to.

Shower. Some days your low mood can seriously get the better of you. At these points, make the effort to at least shower. If you shower, you are more likely to get dressed. If you’re dressed, you’re more likely to leave your home or do something productive.

Write a list of your achievements. We have all achieved something. Sometimes it’s important to remind yourself of how capable you really are. It doesn’t matter if you can’t think of anything big – if this is the case, think about what have you achieved today.

Steer clear of unhealthy quick fixes. Try to avoid using unhealthy self-help techniques to improve your mood in the short-term, such as smoking, excessive alcohol and junk food. Your mood will spike high but then a massive slump will follow which will end up leaving you in a worse state.

Recognise when to seek help. If you’ve been suffering from a low mood for more than 2 weeks, and it is affecting your life and relationships daily, it is important that you seek help. Talk to your GP or healthcare professional.

 

Permalink Reply by Linda Engberg on December 14, 2015 at 7:19am

Hi Kelly,

I wish I had an answer for you, I lost my spouse to colon cancer on 5/5/2013, my first Christmas my sister spent it with me, thank God she was there or I think I would have went crazy. Just make sure you are on alone on the 1st Christmas. My grief is still fresh even though it has been almost 3 years, He was my soulmate and my heart is broken and can't be fixed. Stay with this web-site, there are great people on it who are all suffering and the only ones who understands. God Bless, Linda   

Permalink Reply by Kelly Reiber on December 14, 2015 at 2:07pm

Thank you! I first joined when I did a Google search just a day or two after she passed away. It's crazy to think that they are no longer with us. 

She had a fairly easy ride up until the end. Otherwise up until that point she squeaked by without too many symptoms. Just the usual hair loss from the chemo, and the odd nausea and vomiting bouts, but otherwise she never had any pain until the very end. 

I'm at peace with the fact that she is not suffering anymore, even though it sucks for my family, but at least she didn't have to suffer any longer than she needed to! 

Permalink Reply by Linda Engberg on December 14, 2015 at 3:13pm

My husband had a great Doctor that kept his quality of life good though his  treatments until his death, he just went into a coma and died peacefully thanks to Hospice, Those people are angels from heaven.

Permalink Reply by Fran on December 14, 2015 at 2:49pm

I guess the best tip would be to do what makes YOU feel better. It will be entirely different for you this year, if you spent Christmas with your mom before. But, if you enjoy Christmas lights--DO Christmas lights. If you don't want to listen to Christmas music, turn something else on. Everyone is different.

Odds are doing much of anything just seems like too much work. On the other hand, maybe it would make you feel better to do something for someone else. What did your mom do? Would it make you feel better to do some of what your mom did?

Permalink Reply by Linda Engberg on December 14, 2015 at 3:15pm

I have not listened to Christmas Music this year, It is my third Christmas without my beloved Husband and they just make me sad. Just drink beer to ease the pain.