Newbie seeking support

Hi friends, I lost my longest and closest friend to pancreatic cancer after a 7 month horrific battle. I was his major spiritual support, speaking every night, I was right with him every step of tbhe way and alot of it was listening to his awful fears and unreadiness to die etc..He died about 10 weeks ago, after which time I cried for 3 weeks..2 weeks ago they had his memorial service, and I since that time I find myself feeling a constant, deep pain all the time, as well as crying spells, weakness and depression (unusual for me).

Is this constant pain normal for this situation?

Thank you for your time and support, Blessings and keep swingin:)

DF

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Permalink Reply by LMN on November 17, 2012 at 11:19am

I'm sorry for the loss of your friend.  I too have endured that horrific battle you speak of as I watched my younger sister waste away from gastric cancer - she died this past August; she only survived 8 months after they diagnosed her.

I agree with the sentiments echoed below about being kind to yourself.  I try to do the same but I too am finding it very difficult to cope and at moments feel as if literally I can't take another moment of the pain and sorrow that seems to have engulfed my life.

 

I do have a firm belief in God and Jesus Christ and they have been my comfort.

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