Hello,

 

I'm new to the group. I just lost my sister of breast cancer. I am also 8 months pregnant . I have been doing a lot of reading about death and dying. I'm a spiritual woman and find that I am more and more drawn to studies on death and dying. I miss my sister and have prayed for a sign that she made it to the other side and was okay. I have not received it, and will wait patienly. Some days I feel like I fall into the sadness and get stuck there for a good portion of the day ... Any suggestions on moving forward in a healthy way....

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Hi Sheila, so sorry to hear about your sister. I lost my mom this year to colon cancer , most painful experience of my life. Your post  really touched me cos even though we the relations are different I do relate to what you are going through. I too am spiritual(even more now than ever) Since mom's passing I have been reading so much about death and the otherside and I i believe 100% there is life after death. I prayed so hard for a sign that she was ok and I got so many signs even till now I still get signs that she is ok. Keep praying for her and for a sign and believe me you will get one very amazing sign. I am pregnant too and I don't know how I am going to make it through but I know she is right there with me just like yousr sister is right there with you.

Thanks Mattie... this note is helpful...I wish you and your new baby much happiness. The cycle of life is a miracle and should be called the "recycle of life"...because there are always fresh miracles happening:)

iv lost a lot of family to tht big c desesse i lost my dad ths yer wish woz very paifull he had a lot of respisty promlms lik c o p d but still dont no whot he died of his sisters all died of the big c but difrent types anti ann had brest c anti edi had kidny c anti mary had lung c even my dads cuzens tommy and danny to lukema my cuzen steveo died of pancrated canser it will be over 10 yrs nxt monthh for wen he died cuzen andrea woz only 36 wen she died of brain c i try and go out anmd take fotos i even wiht my dad letters on ballons and let thm go wear his ashes is buried even had replys coz theyy hav all popet som hav even waved and popet i all ways ask why dose god take away evry we love

Thanks jb..I'm sorry for all of your loss....stay strong and prayerful. May God Bless you...Sheila

i just hope 1 day thy will find away of geting rid of thiss evil desese coz it hurts and destroys a lot of familysys tht is left bhind mypoor dad had to lse his sisters to tht big c over th yrs and cuzens and frends over the yrs and thy hav all saed it the funrell it the obistrishy notise family flowers only donate to the c hospicee or heart or lung fondasion or stroke assoion thy do coz i no the charty can do more wit the moony  thn flowers 

Sheila,

I lost someone who I loved deeply to breast cancer 6 months ago.  I have lost many people in my 46 years but this was the most devastating.  I have asked for signs but none.  I am lonely and angry and soooo sad.  I cry every day.  There are some days that I crawl in a ball and scream and cry and try to make sense of all of it. There are days that I don't want to go on.  There are days I wish I would have died with her.  I will say this, when she died have of me died too.  I don't know how to move forward other than give it time and don't try to hide your feelings.   I think what keeps me going is that she asked me to watch over her son and she said "live fully, laugh often and love deeply"  

 

Hugs and blessings

Kim

 

Kim,

 

Thank you for this note. It is helpful...After reading this note I will say that we have no choice but to let the grief transfrom us slowly, in God's time with the passing of each day...I was praying and reading the other day and asking God...why? Why the pain? Why the loss? why the ugliness on this journey? I felt the answer in spirit...HOW ELSE WOULD YOU DRAW CLOSER TO ME?  I've always believed in God now I find I am "forced" to rely on him to get myself up and moving in the morning...this tragedy has turned everyday into a prayers....I hope that you find your path to healing, love, and laughter.... this life is a tough ride and thank God we are not alone...

Love, Sheila

Hi Sheila,

 

I just lost my sister also (gastric cancer) - and I know all about the sadness that overtakes you; it comes to me in waves at the weirdest times.

 

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