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Permalink Reply by David H on July 1, 2012 at 5:33pm

I think your fine.I was reading its a couple of years before you "settle down"as far as alot of grief.Iam not a doctor. I know Iam in the wrong group for this but I was thinking my grief would be low by now ,but it is only a month sice my wifes passing. I have thought live thru these spells of grief.I also thought I should seek help if depression or grief stops me cold

Permalink Reply by Erica Garcia SanMiguel on July 1, 2012 at 5:35pm

Hello Lisa my name is Erica and our situations are somewhat different except for both of losing our mothers. Today is my moms birthday and the pain of not having her here stings so bad. In our family we were brought up very close so I do have lots of support but even with them here for me I still feel so alone Oh and one other thing we have in common I am also seeing a psychologist and I feel the same way you do but I guess it because my mom was my best friend she was the one I always ran when I had a problem she always listen no matter and now she is not here so I feel like no matter whom I talk to it is still not her. I pray a lot I have even started writing in a journal some days it helps and some days nothing helps. I wish this year was over already especially this month on the 22nd it will 5 months and again on most nights I too also cry myself to sleep that is when I actually do fall asleep. I am not sure if this helps or not but I pray that even though or moms are gone and that we feel so alone that we remember we are never alone God and our mothers are both with us I pray for peace and comfort as we mourn. If you ever need to talk just send me a IM or message. take care 

Permalink Reply by sandee love on July 1, 2012 at 9:06pm

hi lisa, i am right there with you.  i stay away from people, even relatives, who put a time limit on how bad i could feel about my mom.   actually, i avoid them at all costs.  its not you, its them that cant handle the deep feelings.  thats their problem.  it really doesnt matter how long ago your mom went to heaven.  my mom went there on 2/22/12.  i guarantee you that i will be still feeling this emptiness inside until the day i die. lisa, please keep "rehashing" & "stewing" .    this is what keeps me going!  for me,  i have to stick with the safe people.  the ones who dont tell me not to "rehash"  or "stew".  please try to believe in something more powerful than yourself.  im saying this to you so i can do this  for myself.

Permalink Reply by BRIDGE MARY on July 2, 2012 at 2:10am

I am so sorry to hear your loss.

My mom passed away in ICU on June 18th feels like yesterday.I am so sad depressed and hard to cope,

This is hardest thing in my life.I was a only child and close with my mom.

talk to her everyday.Now no phone calls only dreams.Can not believe she is gone.I am 45 she was 63.It hurt as she was trying to hang on to life..I feel i cried a waterfall so hurt inside...I also cry myself to sleep.I myself do not have much of a family..I understand you well.Anytime you like to talk i am here.Loosing a mom is so hard never prepared myself for this day never thought it would come.