wedding blues

I lost my dad almost a year and half ago. He went to heaven after fighting kidney failure for about a year. It seems like some days are tougher than others. It still seems like he is just "on vacation" some times and that he will call soon. I am getting married next month and am struggling with his absence. Is there ways to make this easier? Any tips? I still find myself crying at random when I think that he won't be there and he is actually" gone" from this world. I find myself thinking about the times we spent together and how I feel like it has made me pretty bitter.

Thanks for reading
Sarah

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Permalink Reply by Danny on March 3, 2015 at 9:03am
Yes Sarah it is almost like a parent is on vacation sometimes and maybe it helps a bit to think this way, just to absorb the shock. Tips ? The only thing I can suggest if possible is to postpone any major plans for at least two years so like 6 months more in your case. Its not advisable to do anything major for 2-3 years following a major shock. I myself am doing a life review of Dad and that is more important than anything else. Went to his former office, etc.
Permalink Reply by Sarah on March 3, 2015 at 9:05am
Thank you for your comment Danny! It is very tough making big decisions. :)
Permalink Reply by Danny on March 3, 2015 at 9:20am

welcome !  was hoping you would not be offended but yes am trying myself to postpone big decisions if i can. 

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