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Permalink Reply by Debra A. Whitemaine on March 4, 2013 at 7:08am

Hi Joe,

So sorry for your loss.  I wanted to say what a beautiful way to honor your Dad.  That was so well written.  And it is how I feel about my Dad who passed suddenly about 5 months ago. I experience the same feelings and thoughts as you. Thank you.

Permalink Reply by dream moon JO B on March 4, 2013 at 4:19pm

ysteray woz my dads 1st yr anversy frm his passing joe a lot weid thngs hapend  ysterday and today lik i seaed in the death comuncasion blog 

i cryed all day on and off i did i feal lik a lost child evn if i am 38  now

i no iv dun stupit thngs 2 in the past

i no i bot booze at 14 thngking it woz clever but it gav me a rtht hang ober my dad saed the hang over woz punshment infuf for me not to tuch sprits agian and he woz rht he woz more upset wth the person serving me booze it 14

the othr day wen i herd the song daddy cool it remind me of my dad in away it rminds us all of our dads on hear

Permalink Reply by Joe Andersen on March 5, 2013 at 4:09am

Thank you all for the kind words. I admire your strength to be going threw painful times as well and yet you take the time to comfort me. I want to do that for others too but I'm not quite there yet. I'm still too busy feeling sorry for myself.

Permalink Reply by Denise Frappollo on March 6, 2013 at 8:11pm

Joe

It has been almost 10 months since my Dad passed, I still cry for him.  While I can talk about the good times, my heart breaks when I remember I will not hear his voice on the phone again.  I was able to tell my Dad how grateful I was for all the things he did, how wonderful a Dad he was, how sorry I was for all the foolish things I did, I apologized for all the times I hurt him and disappointed him.  I told him I loved him over and over, and how glad I was to be his daughter, even with being able to say all that, I wish I could have one more conversation with him.  Just to hear him say "I love you" one more time.  I still wait for him to come down the hallway at my parents house, or to hear him coming up from his little workshop in the cellar.  This past Christmas we got news that my brother was going to be a father for the first time and we learned early last month that it is a boy.  My father would have so loved to have a grandson, I gave him a granddaughter.  Dad loved children, especially his own and his granddaughter, I know he would be beaming. My husband lost his father six months after mine passed, we had the same conversation you posted.  My husband wished he could have said more, he felt he should have said the things you felt you should have said.  I told him the same thing, no matter how much you get to say, there will always be a need to say more.  I lost my Dad to Cirrhosis, and I knew when the end was near but nothing prepared me for the pain my heart would feel or the emptiness each holiday brings.

 

Permalink Reply by sharon babin on April 27, 2013 at 9:34am

Hi sorry for your loss My dad passed away only a month ago...and I still hurts..6mths isn't that long but I sure he knew you loved him and heard things you said to him..the hearing is the last part to go..I believe strong that he heard you as my dad heard me tell him too he was the best dad ever and that I loved him and will miss him horrible, but he is tired and its ok..we all feel that way if we knew it was the last what would he /she say or what could we have done better..but he forgives youf or all the stupid things....that is what life is about...he knows it...remember that and cherish that..I'm trying to...hugs to you and I hope I helped I am knew at this

Permalink Reply by sharon babin on April 27, 2013 at 9:36am

how do I share this the tear drop..love it