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Permalink Reply by Megan on January 17, 2012 at 9:25pm

hi stephanie, 

i am so sorry for what you're going through, i know how much it can hurt. i lost my dad in july of 2011, the day before my wedding so it has been devastating on so many different levels. i was really close to him, much more than the rest of my family. i know right now it may not seem like it but the pain does get more manageable. it's never going to go away completely but you'll get to a point where you can function and even have happy days again. it's been almost 6 months for me and i can't believe how much healing has happened in that time when i think about where i was even 2 months ago. i do still replay the day he died often, almost daily but it doesn't feel as obsessive as it used to. i went to a greif counselor and it did help, especially with things like intrusive thoughts. now at least i am able to remember him in a happy way instead of just thinking about his death. 

we're all here to listen, i hope things get better for you. just remember that your dad loved you and would want you to live your life and be happy. 

-megan 

Permalink Reply by christianlee on January 18, 2012 at 7:17am

Hi Stephanie .. I lost my dad too this past summer. The pain some days are too much to bear. I was my dads only daughter ..so I too was daddy's little girl. I have been comforted by recent dreams I've had of him. I know that our dads are still with us and would not leave us behind. However this new year without him has been real rough. I feel like its so hard to move ahead and I don't want forget the last year of his life. Hard on my mom too....tough to know the right things to say when you are just as uncertain. Only hope for peace and understanding for you and I. Still don't understand why he had to go so soon. Peace and blessing to you.

Permalink Reply by Stella on February 20, 2012 at 12:14am

Hi Stephanie,

I wish I didn't identify with how you feel but I do.  It has been 5 months now since my Daddy died, and I too was a "Daddy's girl".  He was the one person I could talk to, to share with, to go to with any troubles.  He thought the world of me.  I am losing friends because I can't get up the energy to be around people much.  I sense that people close to me are getting tired of me crying about my dad.  I even had a friend tell me it was childish that I was crying over the fact my mother didn't call me on my birthday, knowing my beloved father is gone, making it seem worse.  I feel like an orphan.  I know logically there is nothing I can do, that sitting around depressed isn't helping anybody...but the pain is so great to bear, that it zaps me physically.  Most days I am just numb not knowing what to do.  I know that nothing in life lasts forever but day after day of this pain is so great.  Therapy, meds, etc. ,etc., do not appeal to me as I know it will only prolong what I need to get through.  I don't need anyone to tell me to think positively, to move forward, to appreciate what I did have with my dad, etc.  It's such garbage.  I just need to heal.. and how that will happen, I don't know.

Permalink Reply by christianlee on February 20, 2012 at 3:25am

Oh Stella..I feel so much like you. I share your same feelings...folks say in time it will get better, however I feel with time things have gotten worse. My once close family seems farther apart. The statement stands true a whole can justify its means. When a piece Breaks off its difficult to function as what we call normal again. I feel like I had such an easy life with my dad. Now life without him seems so sad and blue.