Anniversary

We just recently passed the one year anniversary of my father's death.  I thought as time went on, it would be easier; however I feel worse now than I did a year ago.  I have been very depressed and easily irritated. I have been so distant from my husband because he doesn't give me the attention my father used to give me.  He was othe only person in my life that genuinely knew me and would do anything for me.  Yes I was Daddy's girl :).  I was wondering if anyone else has experienced this. 

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Permalink Reply by dream moon JO B on October 3, 2012 at 3:26pm

its only bean march this yer sisne i lost my dad linda i still miss him evry day i thnk it woz yesterday  i thort i saw him siting on the chair but wen i looket again nobody ther my dad woz the samee i woz a daddys girl to wen i woz a kid i wood follor him all over to me my dad woz my supper hero 

Permalink Reply by Linda on October 4, 2012 at 7:21pm

Hi Jb.  I am sorry for your loss. There are many times right before I fall asleep that I feel him with me like he is by my side helping me sleep. I hope our dads realize how much they meant to us.  I think a super hero is a great way to describe him.

Permalink Reply by Crystal on October 4, 2012 at 5:41am
My 1st anniversary of my dad's passing was hard somewhat. I wrestled with the thoughts of "he's gone, oh god" to "how do I go on without talking to him like I used to?" He was my best friend, ever since we made up for being estranged for 10 years (long story, ask me privately pls) a day after I got married. I miss our chats. I too was daddy's girl, and I guess that makes it all the harder. So Linda, I feel for you. I have an idea of how you feel also. It was 1 year the end of June that we lost him-w days before his 68th birthday. It's hard at times, but I have my sister & family support. Especially since I'm the executor of his estate...ugh! I hate being the oldest & most "responsible one"sometimes!
Permalink Reply by dream moon JO B on October 4, 2012 at 3:35pm

IM PLEASED IM THE YUNGEST 1 BUT IM MY DADS ONLY BLOOD HE EVEN TRET MY BROTHA AND SISTER LIKE HIS OWN BUT LATELY MY SISTER IS TURNING IN TO SUM BOSSY BULLY IF MY DAD HAD BEAN ALIVE SHE WOODNT BE BULLYING MY MUM DOSENT NEAD THIS ESPESELY MY DADS BDAY CUMING UP ON BOXING DAY

Permalink Reply by Linda on October 4, 2012 at 7:18pm

Thank you Crystal! I am sorry for your loss. I miss my chats too with my dad!  He had the best sense of humor and always made me laugh.  My mom is still with us and healthy, but it breaks my heart to see her suffer alone.  She lives 2 hours away and I wish I can just be there with her when she has a bad day. I agree being responsible is not fun!

 

Permalink Reply by dream moon JO B on October 5, 2012 at 10:32am

i miss my chats with my dad 2 allwayz mad e me laff wen i woz fealing sad my dad allwayz cheard peole up even wen sum 1 took a foto of him sum 1 presset click on the camra and for a joke my dad woz pulling fase and pulled is false teath outallways playing jokes and allways playing pranks on and telling jokes life feals sad with out him 

Permalink Reply by Kristie Jo on October 9, 2012 at 10:02am

Linda,

I'm so sorry for your loss! My father passed away in July- so I'm just starting the firsts.  I know the Holidays are going to be so hard.  We actually put up a Christmas tree for him a week before he passed because he wanted it to be Christmas so bad.  My mom still hasn't been able to take it down.  I was always a Daddy's girl, and I feel the same way you do with my husband.  My father was my world, he would have done anything for me, he was my protector and my rock.  Like I said, I'm only a few months into it, and I'm hoping it gets easier for me, but I'm not sure how I'm going to make it through the holidays, plus Dec. 22 would have been my father's 58 birthday.  My Dad was always the guy who had the house at Halloween the little kids were afraid to walk up to for candy, and he went all out for Christmas.  I'm just trying to keep his spirit alive by doing what he used to do.  Wishing you the best, Linda!

Permalink Reply by Linda on October 9, 2012 at 8:23pm

Thank you Kristie!  I am sorry for your loss! I feel like I am asking my husband to be him, but I'm not.  I just want that undivided attention that my dad gave me.  Kristie, the firsts are difficult but being together as a family helps.  My mom and I found the anticipation to the holiday was worse than the actual day. Once we were together, we all talked about him and the funny things he did.  Hang in there and just remember how much fun he was and how he made the holidays so special. I think it's great, keep that spirit alive! Wishing you luck!

 

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