What do you do for fun? Or a hobby?

My wife died 4 weeks ago.
And while I am not there yet and may not be for some time, or ever, I am curious to know if anyone has found enjoyment in their lives again.
Or at least a pleasant way to pass the time.

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Permalink Reply by Mel Royer on March 25, 2016 at 10:49am

You know, Jason. If there was ever a healing pastime, it's listening to or creating music. My Nancy loved good music, whether pop or classical and we sang together often in the church choir.  I'm something of a hack songwriter and guitarist and find a tranquilizing effect in making music.  It truly does give comfort to a troubled soul. Apart from that, I'm using distractions as a technique to get my mind, temporarily, off my grieving. Walking, writing, repairing...anything that will steer your attention in a new direction is helpful. Of all of these, for me, I find the most enjoyment and calming effect in music.

Mel

Permalink Reply by dream moon JO B on March 25, 2016 at 12:27pm

i did ths 1 dw donwloded windes movi makerr liv i did endd up add pics 2 musik i did i gott so cared way doin it i did i still get cared way i do

Permalink Reply by Cat on March 25, 2016 at 1:48pm

I dont' know if enjoyment is the right word, but for me it is gardening.  My mom loved to garden - I find it very healing to be outside and plant, tend, just think.   You can get out of your head when you are in nature. I also have my mom's dog now - just being there with the dog, who is older is also nice.  Having a warm body sitting on you - no demands.  My mom's dog was largish but is also grieving, so she just wants to be attached to me.  It helps me alot when I feel so bad I can't stand it.

Permalink Reply by Jennifer on March 26, 2016 at 10:47pm
I listen to music, love cooking, watch movies and anything to keep me busy
Permalink Reply by Felicia on March 28, 2016 at 10:46pm

I have been doing "art therapy", which is simply expressing your feelings through your art work.  There are alot of Internet sites about art journaling and art therapy.  And you don't have to be a great artist to do it. It's just a way to take the pain and negative feelings inside and re-direct them to something constructive.  It may sound simple, but it has helped me to cope better.

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