Need to know that I can talk without having done so in years.

My brother died 10 years ago.  He was four; I was seven.  Now I'm seventeen, almost eighteen, and I look back on his death differently than when I was seven.  I haven't talked about my brother in so long, and I need to know that it is not impossible to do so.  I really need guidance and support and that is truly what I seek now. 

Home is where I should be able to most talk about his death.  My parents, though, get to sad and then the sadness turns to anger.  So I just don't talk about it and bottle it up.  Up until now it was easier this way.  I did my college essay on my brothers passing and it reopened old wounds.  I want to talk to someone without my parents knowing beacuse I don't want to make them sad, angry, or guilty. 

What I really need to know is if ten years is to long to talk about it?  Is there a time limit?  Can I personally find the courage to talk after not doing so for so long?

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I'm very sorry for you loss. There is no time limit..I'm sure there are people on this site that share your exact feelings. It's just finding them. I'm glad you decided to work through your feelings now. I wish you could talk to your parents about it. But maybe they just need more time. I hope your able to find the help you need here. I'm here if you need to talk any time. Not talking about your brother must be hard. I would love to hear about your memories of him :)

Big hugs to you!

Melissa

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