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My ex husband died in a car accident on Friday 3/20/09 we have a 2 yr old boy. I stilled loved my ex husband very much n he told me he still loved me. The last conversation we really had was a week before he died. He came to my house yelling at me and calling me names. I got a restraining order on him on Tues 3/17/09. The last time i seen my ex is when I picked up my 2 yr old for my visitaltion.

I am so distraught cause our little boy will be growing up without a daddy. Plus I am blaming myself cause our last conversation was on a bad note. My ex was only 27 years old and he had some many plans for his life. And i know he loved our baby.

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Permalink Reply by Katie Grace on May 6, 2009 at 12:29am

Im sure he loved your baby and you very much and Im sure if he had any say in the matter he would prolly hope that you could come to the point where you forgive yourself as well. Its easy to second guess yourself, but ultimately you can't go back in time. I personally believe that most people are much harsher on themselves than others are towards them, so try to give yourself a little slack cause it seems like you are dealing with a lot with grieving a loss and raising a child. Im really sorry for your loss and hope you find hope and healing with all that has happened!

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Permalink Reply by Diana, Grief Recovery Coach on May 7, 2009 at 7:07am

I believe our loved ones can still hear us and know the pain we are going through without them. I am sure he knows how you feel. Of course, that doesn't make it any easier. But just talking or writing through it helps. As well as sharing with others. (((((hugs)))))

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Permalink Reply by healing07 on July 4, 2009 at 2:07am

I m so sorry for your loss. I know its the awful time for you and its difficult to deal with this grief. Loss of loved one is so painful to us. He loved your baby so much and I know you really miss him. Its your heart breaking. My heart totally goes out to you.
Child always need their daddy and I know he miss him in future. Your last conversation was important for you and I know what you feel this time. You should trying to deal with your pain with help of grief counseling. My prayers with you. May God Bless you.
((((((((((((HUGS))))))))))))))

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