my son was killed sept 24 due to a roll over accident, he was with a friend he had just met, and they both were killed. i didn't find out till the next day on the 25th when a policeman called and told me over the telephone around 11:30 am. he dided around 1:15pm on the 24th. i miss him so bad and every part of me is dying. i just don,t know how to deal with this it,s like and is my very worst nightmare. help paula

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Paula,
My heart goes out to you for the shock and pain that you are experiencing. My partner died suddenly on the 24th or 25th of September between the late hours of night and early morning when I found him. It is unbearable I know. I am not sure that we will ever be the same but what is left of my heart is feeling for you. It is a nightmare and I wish I could not wake up, but it keeps happening every morning!!! How can we help each other because I could do with some help as well!!! Knowing that there are other poeple going through the same thing is sadly comforting. I don't feel so alone.
It is getting harder for me to ask for help because it feels that there is nothing that will ever fix this. But from experioence I know that the pain stays the same but we get bigger and stronger around it. Or that's what I'm counting on!
i think you so much for responding, i am not real good with the internet, so please excuse my mistakes. i know i guess how everone feel it almost conforts me to know that i can feel i have someone to talk to. it seems my whole family can't relate to how i'm feeling. i'm so lost in this world. i have lost a sister, father, grandparents, a close aunt due to murder, and nothing compases to this paula luv!
My son died on Thanksgiving Day so I am still in shock. An autoposy was performed on him so we won't know for sure what killed him for weeks, but we think it was a drug overdose. He was 35 years old and had a beautiful little girl. He was supposed to join us the day after Thanksgiving. I talked to him the day before and he was so excited to see us all. The Holidays have been hard but it has kept me busy--I wonder how I will do after the Holidays. I think the shock of our sons dying so suddenly is so hard and I will keep you in my prayers.
charlotte, i really feel your pain, i will keep you your family and son in my prayers. i still feel as if this happened to me yesterday. i cant even imagine what has happened. i feel like im in a fog. i know i havent even begun to deal with this. i act like its not real. i just dont know what to do are how to feel. paula
I am sorry to hear about your Sons passing. My little Sister, Mindy died on New Year's Eve of an accidental drug overdose and she was 35 years old with 13 year old twin girls. I understand the shock feeling that you have I am still in shock which makes me worry that I am not grieving correctly. (If there is such a thing) Do you have any other children?
My son died November 28th, autopsy results aren't back yet, Metabolic STudies is holding things up.. it takes so long to do those things. He was 37, my only child. I understand your grief....no words can make this better, for there are no magic words, even though that's what I hope for any time anyone has anything to say about it. I know I can't do this myself, I don't know how. I don't know how to go on. I don't know how to live with it. You're not alone. For some reason we are here together.
im so sorry i cant imagaine losing an only child. i pray the lord gets you through this. i do count my blessings i have two more wonderful sons, but somehow doug was my best friend, and the life of my life. paula
Yes, for some reason we are here together and I think we can gleam some comfort from this site and sharing with one another through this grieving process which only another parent that has lost a child can understand. Someone said to me "I don't know how you can go through this" and I said "I have no choice". My son, Jeremy loved life and I know he would want me to be happy and I am going to live my life for him and remember the happy times with him. I had him for 35 years and I know he loved me and I loved him plus I did everything I could so that he knew this even to his last day on earth. I know that I will see him again someday and this brings me such peace. I have cried and continue to cry whenever the sadness hits me which seems to relieve the grief and mourning I am experiencing.
Please take care my new friends,
Charlotte
i cant seem to grasp the death of doug. some thing just keeps me holding on. he was so sweet and such a good friend to everone he knew, but his life was so miserable for him his last months, and i aleays feel like i should have done more. but what? i did every thing i new to do, he was depressed, but yet so uplifting to every one else like he didnt have a worry, wich i new different. he was off worh the wed before his accident, and yet i didnt go over there to visit and i know he called me at least 10 times talking. i miss him so bad paula
Hi I lost my parnter on the 18th of Septmeber. I miss him so much, I can relate to so many of the things you have said. I can't explain how I am feeling to anyone because they have never lost anyone so close to them and I feel I need to be strong for our families. I wish it could all go back to how it was before the accident
lizzy, i really feel for you. it is so hard and i will pray for you and i think about anyone who lost someone loved so much, its unbearable. i am not good on computer typing so please excuse me. i am having a hard time with my family understanding my pain, i cant seem to talk to them , it seems that is all i can do its been 3 months and i feel like it happened yesterday. i dont know if there will ever be a normal to life any more paula
I had never lost anyone that close to me so to lose one of the closest people was a shock. I'd rather talk to someone who actually understands the things I am feeling. It feels like it was just yesterday to me too, like it would all just go back to normal if he came back. Feel like I'm changed for good now and can't ever go back.

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