Lost My Husband Suddenly

I lost my husband suddenly three weeks ago and I am having crazy thoughts.  My life as a whole has not been easy I was born hearing impaired and at 35 I was diagnosed with Retinitis Pigmentosa which is a peripheral vision problem so, I don't drive anymore.  I had one bad marriage which was full of mental abuse but, thankfully I was smart enough to get away from that.  Like the pot of gold at the end of the rainbow I meet Bob and he is everything a woman could want respectable, empathic, sensitive and compassionate.  He told my parents that they would have no worries because he was going to take care of me and sometimes he took too good care of me.  He was a rare type of man he is the guy that stop to ask for directions, watches chick flicks, laughs at the corniest things and the list goes on.  So, now after five short married years together he is gone and I don't want to go on without him. It all doesn't make any sense to me I am so angry and so sad.  He was such a great part of my day now, I sit here in this big ole house alone!

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Permalink Reply by Evangelina Ramos on July 22, 2011 at 12:25am

I to lost my husband suddenly 3 1/2 weeks ago. He was my everything. I know exactly how you feel. He was supposed to be with me forever. I am also angry and sad.....just breath that's all we can do to try to get through this.

Permalink Reply by Semary Rose on July 22, 2011 at 1:52am
I suddenly lost my husband, too, a little over 7 weeks ago.  We were only together for about 5.5 years, married for 2.5.  I understand how you feel.  The only thing getting me through this is my children and the need to provide love and care for them.  I know exactly how you feel. 
Permalink Reply by Natasha L. on July 22, 2011 at 3:26pm

 I lost my husband about a year ago. The shock of a sudden loss is something no one can prepare you for, or understand unless they've been there. 

 This site has been a huge comfort to me. I hope you'll find some peace here too. I'm sorry for your loss. The only advice I can give you is just take one day at a time. Sometimes one minute at a time. 

Permalink Reply by Stephanie Legge on August 3, 2011 at 7:00pm
I am contemplating going to a bereavement group but, it's a Christian group and I am not sure I am in the right state of mind.  Everything I've believed in and I am the first one to say everything happens for a reason but, I want to know why!!!!! I am hurting so bad and I don't know where to put it!
Permalink Reply by Bianca on August 5, 2011 at 6:36pm

I also just lost my fiance' a couple weeks ago, we have an 10 yr. old son and an 9 month old daughter. We spent every minute together and when we weren't together we kept in contact by phone and couldn't wait to be back together even if it was just a work shift. He also was my pot of gold, as you put it. I experienced trauma thru my childhood and experienced an awful, detramental relationship and them I met Fred, my love. He was only 27, we were planning on getting married and already working on adding more kids, we were suppost to grow old together. I have no idea what to do with myself so I'm going to lean on God because now I know it's all in his hands. I look at the world completely different now.

 

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