Losing someone changes you forever

People don't like being around somebody who is grieving. When you lose someone it's not just them you lose. I have realised that many friends have just not bothered with me and some family members just find me depressing to be around. I understand it, who wants you be around someone who just brings the mood down. Things that I cared about before just seem so unimportant, I'm finding it hard to do small talk and care about a dress that a friend wants to buy for instance. 

I feel like I can't be sad in front of people because people seem to think I should be 'over' it now even though it's only been 7 weeks. All I want to do is talk about him but people just try and change the conversation. Sometimes it so much easier when I'm on my own and can be miserable.

Losing someone you love changes you forever. It upsets me because I know I am not the same person that he fell in love with. 

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Permalink Reply by Sara Schwartztrauber on November 16, 2015 at 1:12am

I just read your post, even though it has been up many months. I know EXACTLY how you feel. If you need to vent, I'm a good listener.

Permalink Reply by dream moon JO B on November 16, 2015 at 4:15pm

i seam 2 loe  loze it mre i do 

i dnt mean 2 bt lifs bean shit in wayz u cud say

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