My father died on July 10-09. He went to sleep at night and my mother couldn't wake him up the next morning. He never got a chance to use the dentures they had just finished for him. So my niece put
them in the coffin with him.
It is normal to feel this way after almost 3 months? I still cant believe he is gone and keep wishing it was
a dream and I will wake up. Cant sleep, Im sad all the time, dont feel like talking to anybody.
This is horrible

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I have experienced intense grief and pain as well and three months really isn't that much time to deal with a sudden loss. Im glad that you are reaching out though a little, at least here on this website, and hope you find it helpful. I have read a lot about grief and loss since my mother passed away six months ago because reading about loss helps me wrap my head around all of the emotions and things that I am going through. I know that it common to withdrawal from others, be alone and not want to talk to others, feel sad, and have sleep disturbance. I think that the only danger in it is that you shut yourself off from others that can help you cope and being alone in this sort of intense pain can be miserable so hope you are able to find a balance between getting the alone time you need and getting the support you need from others as well.
Would you mind sharing what you have been reading?
Really very sorry ! your husband died ! May god bless him and keep him in total peace and give you strength to bear the grief and pain! Reaally the death of a spouse is realized very sorrowfully. And it is qiute a very sad experience in your life. Please relax now and see ahead to live your good days which are about to come. sympathy words
Hi, I'm new to this website. I lost my father last year. I know exactly what you're going through. It's been a year, and not a moment goes by where I don't think of him. Just a couple weeks a go I just broke down and cried because I missed him so much. I am so sorry for your loss
Im sorry for your loss, my dad died 7 months ago (still feels like yesterday) and it is only really just hitting me that it is forever. However you are feeling is normal, because everyone has to be able to deal in whatever way comes naturaly to them.
I share your pain. My dad died on July 30-09. I don't want to sleep because of the dreams I have. I look for him and can't reach him. I dream of others in my family dying. I, too, cry all the time. Doctor prescribed valium, but it does nothing. I don't take it because it seems to make me sadder. Every time I dream of him, when I wake up, I think that I need to call and check on him, and it hits me smack in the face like it just happened. I don't know what is normal or if there is a normal. How can something so crushing be normal? I went on here because I don't want to talk to anyone I know. I am supposed to be the strong one. This IS horrible. I am sorry you are feeling this way. I wish there was something that would help. I haven't found it yet.
I feeel your pain. I lost my 12 year old grandson over a year ago and I feel that it was only yesterday. I lost my dad 11 months before that. My dad was ill and thus easier to handle. But, my grandson was full of life, love and promise. I know I will never recover. In July 1988 I lost my younger brother in a North Sea Oil rig explosion and 11 month later my youngest brother to pneumonia. I have never recovered from those losses, but I learned to live with them. Now, I am going thru another grieving process and feel worse than ever. My counselor says I suffer from accumulated grief. Along with grief of death, another grief over relationship problems. I know I must go on but there are days I just can't seem to face it.
My mom passed away July 22 and I still have my crying days too. My worst time is at night when its all quiet in the house. My mind starts thinking of all the things I'll miss talking to her about. I just live day by day. I went through my birthday 2 weeks after her death, then her birthday in October. Now with the holidays I know I'll be in trouble.

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