How Do I?

How do I Explain to my soon to be 3 year old, why he cant hug his Dad?

When my husband was murdered my son was just a baby, he was 19 months old. All that he spoke was a few mom and dad here and there. But now, he is a toddler! and says too much and also asks too much too. Everynight he kisses his dad's picture goodnight, but also looks at me and says "hug to Dad mommy?"

I get this huge knob in my throat and contain my tears!. It breaks my heart that my son does not have his Dad here with him. To enjoy his sillyiness, his new words, his playtime, all of it. I deeply miss Danny as a husband to me, my lover, my soulmate, my best friend! But it just also or even hurts a lot more,   missing Danny as a Dad! to my Son.

What do I say or explain to my son?

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Permalink Reply by MIchael A Ballard on July 24, 2012 at 11:12pm
Hi Amanda! I understand your fears. Don't forget that children are magical and have healing ability. Your boy will be just fine. My young boy lost his mom. Our new reality is our worst fears now. I always remembered this saying.."Worrying may be a deposit on a loan that might not even be yours".Just keep your love strong and there is where comfort is found. If you need to talk I am here. You can text me at 4028129041. Peace, Michael
Permalink Reply by Amanda Ab on July 25, 2012 at 11:35pm

Hi Michael.

being a one and only parent not by choice, its been by far the most difficult thing I have been through. See I can be a heck of a strong mom for my son, and wipe off my tears when I am down and put a smile for him but when it comes to him asking me, I just feel helpless. I dont want my son to suffer for our loss.

Thanks for your reply.

 

Permalink Reply by Kali Grainger on September 10, 2012 at 5:02pm

Amanda,

I feel the same way... My daughter is only 7 months old but I dread the day she asks me why she doesn't have a daddy... or why she can't hug/kiss her daddy.  She will never remember the 4 months she had with him...

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