do u stay at the house u shared memories?or do u live??

since i lost my husband i had to live the house that we had just bought... at times i feel that i want to go back but when i go just to clean it i cant be there too long.. my house is not the same anymore..the tree i used to love in the backyard now is ugly to me :( the garage is so quiet ..his bike aint there no more.. is so sad that i had to live my house ..im strong enough to go to the cementary but i cant be home with my kids.. so many memories .. i dont know what to do if i should move out for good or go back??? please help me !!!!!

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Permalink Reply by Bianca on August 12, 2011 at 6:34pm

Me and my fiance' didn't own a home, we just moved into are current townhome in June. Me and my kids are moving out, it is too painful to be here where we spent time with him and then I expect him to come thru the door here too. It's hard to make these kind of decisions right now. And I understand the feeling, how nothing in the world is enjoyable or pretty anymore. We are just trying to survive each day and bare the heartache.

Permalink Reply by adriana gonzalez on August 12, 2011 at 8:23pm
yes bianca .. i think is better for us to move out,,like u said were just trying to survive :(
Permalink Reply by Amanda Ab on August 12, 2011 at 6:59pm

My husband and I have lived at our apartment for the past 5 years. And I am not planning on moving. I am staying here. Although, i cant help to feel so alone, the house so big now that he is gone. There is just too much pain. But, i also have so much memories of all of us here. Every part of the house reminds me of him, and at the same time, i feel him close to me. I guess it is a hard decision to make. For myself, i am staying for now.

Permalink Reply by adriana gonzalez on August 14, 2011 at 8:34pm
amanda alot of people told me that i should do what u did n stay home but my home is a hour away from all my family n i think im going to feel really lonely up there with my kids... for me i feel like is too soon to go back

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